You can't change a pattern you can't see

You keep ending up in the same place. The same kind of relationship. The same reaction you swore you'd stop having. The same exhaustion after saying yes when you meant no.

You've probably tried to understand it. Maybe you can even explain exactly where it came from. And it still keeps happening.

That's because the thing driving the pattern is usually the one thing you can't see: a core wound, and the mask you built to protect it. A belief you took on when you were small, like "I shouldn't exist," "No one will be there for me," or "I have to be perfect to be loved." The mask worked so well, you started to believe it was just who you are.

That's a blind spot. And you can't change what you can't see.

How transformation actually happens

In Christine's work, change doesn't come from more insight. It comes from a simple sequence, practiced daily:

• Become The Observer. See the pattern - and the mask - from the outside, without shame.
• Unblend. Create space between you and the part that takes over, so you're with it instead of in it.
• Listen to what's behind it. Find the wound your mask has been guarding, and what that young part needs.
• Take new steps in your life. Small, daily actions and new environments that give your nervous system new evidence - and build new neural wiring.

Daily habits bring quicker transformation and integration. That's what this is built for.

What this is

Find Your Blind Spots is a guided conversation that asks you one question at a time, the way Christine would in a session. It's built on her course, her book, and the 5 core wounds she teaches through an IFS lens (from Lise Bourbeau's framework): rejection, abandonment, humiliation, betrayal, and injustice - and the masks we build to survive them.

It moves through five sections:

1. The Pattern - name what keeps happening, as The Observer.
2. The Trigger and the Protector - what sets it off, where you feel it, and the mask that steps in.
3. Unblending - Christine's steps for creating space from that part.
4. The Root - your primary wound, the belief underneath, and the need that was never met.
5. Rewiring - your daily practice of new actions and new environments for the next 66 days, because that's how long it takes to rewire a core pattern.

Your Treasure Map

At the end, you get your Treasure Map: a personal document, in your own words, with your pattern, your trigger, your mask, how you unblend, the treasure underneath, and your daily rewiring practice. Come back anytime to check in on your practice and update your map as you change.

You are not your wound. You are not your mask. The wound is where the treasure is buried. It's not for nothing.

What it does not do

It doesn't diagnose you, tell you what's wrong with you, or push you into painful memories. It asks, listens, and reflects. It is not therapy and not a substitute for professional care.